This is the headline that jumped out at me from the Sydney Morning Herald today. Diplomat unadopts ‘difficult’ girl. What the fuck?
As you read through the article you learn that this little girl was adopted as a baby when the diplomat and his wife thought that they couldn’t have children. As it sometimes happens, the diplomat and his wife were able to have their own biological children sometime after the adoption. Now with their own kids and seven years after the adoption, they suddenly decide to abandon their first daughter because ” (it) was difficult to raise her because of cultural shock (and) she’s not willing to eat their food.” This makes absolutely no sense. They have been the parents of this girl since she was a baby – at most she would have been one when she joined their family. What food would have this kid been used to at age one that she could not change over to “their food”?
I didn’t even think that you could ‘unadopt’ a child. Once you adopt a child, that kid is yours both legally and emotionally. It would be like surrendering your parental rights to your children because they refused to eat their dinner. What parent would do that? Now, I know most parents have probably thought of disowning their ungrateful non-dinner eating brats, but seriously, who would go through with it??
I also don’t get what is so special about biological children when compared to adoptive children. If you are a man, it is five seconds of pleasure and if you are a woman it is nine months of pure hell, but what is that compared to years of love? What did you have a more active part in creating; the kid’s eye colour or their memories? I can tell you which one was more enjoyable and it has nothing to do with DNA.
I feel so sorry for this little girl. The only family she has ever know has just abandoned her in a country where she does not have citizenship. It is just downright cruel. People like her former adoptive parents do not deserve her or any other child.